As the oldest and only girl among 6 brothers, I have had my share of journeys to take.  

Two of my brothers were incarcerated with a combined total of 20 years, and as the oldest and only female among my siblings, I took on the roles of my brothers’ provider and supporter.  This role created many difficult circumstances for me. 

I learned very early in life not to mix my life situations.  I didn't let my personal life interfere with my professional life.  This allowed me to keep parts of my life separate.  I found that people’s inability to separate the issues of their loved ones and their own lives can be unhealthy in some instances. 

During the time that two of my siblings were incarcerated, I graduated college, worked full time, and advanced my career in the financial industry all while taking care of them.  

My brothers never wanted or needed anything while they were in prison because I made sure I took care of them even when I had to neglect my own needs and wants. 

In addition to compartmentalizing everything that I felt about being their primary provider and postponing some of my dreams, I had to learn to set boundaries when it came to my relationship with them. 

I learned that I could love and support my brothers while they were incarcerated while I prioritized myself.  I learned that setting boundaries made it possible to manage all things in my life.